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 in response to montedreams...   Hey montedreams's, you're really an okay guy the way you support people with your kind words on this site. Bless you for that. Just don't put others down because they support animals. To some people animals ARE their children. I am a single mom and I believe everyone should support whatever or whomever they feel they should support if they can. I understand that you think that way though and believe me, my son and I also had our share of hardship, still please don't put others down because they feel they should help animals instead of humans. We're all God's creatures and all of us deserve to be treated with respect... You both help make the world a better place, just both in different ways... x

 in response to mimi21...   You're very welcome, I just have a really hard time with people judging other people when they don't even know each other's situation. I teach my son that no one is ugly on the outside but people sure can be ugly on the inside. Anyway, thank your girls for the picture, unfortunately I couldn't view it, perhaps something went wrong with uploading? Give them my regards and your husband too of course. Hang in there...

I know couples who go through the same as you. Never a shame to ask for help if you need it, especially when there are kids involved. My uncle and his wife have two girls and they are having a hard time as well. My uncle works just as hard full-time and his job was fine when he was younger but he has passed 55 now so his health is letting him down. He works outside a lot, building construction and he has to travel so much. From the 14 hours he is out there for his job, he gets paid 8.

I'm worried about him because he's got long problems and diabetes now. His wife has a heart disease but is also cleaning houses now to provide for their girls and their education. They don't talk about their financial problems but I wish they would. I know from a niece that my uncle's wife is on anti depression medications... I also know that people would be willing to help them especially knowing they have helped out others so much in the passed. But they don't ask for help therefore I'm only glad that you do. It must be hard enough as it is. Never mind those people who send you ugly messages. Not every one is like that. I am a single mother but I don't think that way. Who is that person who sent you that rude message to judge your situation. I wish you and your family all the luck in the world and I hope everything will turn out for the best...

 in response to gabbigoo...   I know how you feel, it's a miracle alone that I have my son. He's also 10. I have severe Endometriosis and I was not even supposed to have my boy. Almost impossible, I say almost because he’s here, alive and kicking! Had an operation 4 years ago because I also wanted my boy to have a brother or a sister and not to be alone. The operation did not have the result I wished for but the man I was with turned out to be bad news so perhaps it was meant to be.

Now the Endometriosis has returned plus I just turned 40. As sad as it makes me he will never have brothers or sisters, who knows in the future I will meet a man who's got children as well. I told my son it takes more than blood to be family. That also goes for brothers and sisters. Stepbrothers and sisters could be the next best thing. Or any one who feels like a brother or sister in his/her heart... Still, I have been where you are and I hope your dream does come true... Good luck and God bless you and your daughter.

After a bad relationship of almost 6 years there's finally light at the end of the tunnel. I realise that my choices, good and bad, drag my son in whatever the effects are. This time, even though well meant, it has been more than ugly... I tried to make something of it, somehow believing I should, for my son and I. My son was 4 when I met him. I know now that this man has Narcissistic personality disorder. In the end I was so lost and drained my mind became numb. I paid so much of his... whatever needed to be paid... that I couldn't pay my own bills anymore. The worse it got, the less I did to make it right for myself. I was too occupied keeping that man happy and trying to make him not leave us. Thinking it's bad enough that my son's own father never cared for him already... (been a single parent from the start, not by choice but by chance) Only to find out, he was never planning on having any kind of future with us. He could never accept my son being around 24/7 and me not looking like his ex (she's like Brigitte Bardot, his words and he's right), the mother of his little girl. He also has 2 kids with another ex, he left her for this one.

I found these things out along the way because that was information he didn't really share when we were dating. Anyway he enjoyed my attempts to keep him happy and paying his stuff and making me believe that everything that was wrong in our 'relationship' was entirely my fault. My world literally crashed after such a long time of mental abuse and only after quite some time and help of true friends and new colleagues, I am where I am today... Back in my own house again and getting help with my financial situation. For all these years I let every one believe we were doing just fine and there was nothing wrong. Too long I have been too ashamed and proud to ask for help…

Still have a couple of things I have to arrange financial before I can breath fully again. My boy is doing better every day and that is what makes me tick. He’s the best and I accept that it’s his father’s own choice and loss he’s missing out on so much. I choose not to be in any kind of relationship for as long as needed and I will never let something like this ever happen again. Always open to new friendships and soul mates though. Still have a long way to go but I've noticed that I can finally dream again... *hugs*

Just wondering how things turned out for the two or you. Hope for the best and that you were able to find some help...